The First Time I Got Stood Up

What it’s like to get your heart broken by someone you haven’t even met.

This is a story that happened to me a few days ago. I got stood up by a girl I had been talking to for six months.

It was June of 2021 when a friend introduced me to one of her close girl friends. Why not? I’ve been single for almost two years now, so this might be a good chance to make a fresh start.

One caveat, though, is that we were overseas away. She is in the Philippines, and I am in Japan. The communication was completely virtual.

I looked up her Instagram profile, and man, she’s damn pretty. Her demure smile matches her sleepy eyes — which gives her an impression of innocence. She looked simple, but that made her even more attractive to me.

We spent the next several months talking just about anything. We agree on so many things, think the same way, and operate on the same wavelength. Each day, I was falling for this person.

December 2021, when I flew back to the Philippines for Winter Holidays. This was the perfect time for us to finally meet in person. I offered to visit her hometown. I bought a ticket, booked a hotel, and gave her the schedule.

She refused.

Let’s meet halfway instead. I don’t want you getting into so much hassle.

Ain’t that too sweet of her? I did not disagree. The plan changed, and I flew in days early to the agreed location.

Two days later, on the day we were supposed to meet, I got a text: I’m sorry I got busy at work, and my stomach is upset. I can’t go.

That was it—no other explanation.

It didn’t take long before the feeling of humiliation came creeping in. I felt small and embarrassed of myself. All the excitement for what could’ve been was all for… nothing.

Was I expecting too much?

I didn’t want to vomit my thoughts via chat message while I was in that angry headspace—no burning bridges here (at least just yet).

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